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Your first session enquiry: what to put in the message
A practical first-message example that asks a clear question without sharing unnecessary personal details.
First session enquiry message: one question, not your entire history
Your first message to DrHugger does not need to explain your entire life. Its purpose is to start a specific conversation about the service and the next step. You can be interested in a platonic, non-sexual session while still wanting answers first. You do not need to present that interest as a decision you have already made.
Before writing, identify what you want to know now: how contact works, what the boundaries are, or what happens before a possible meeting. If you have several questions, put the one that will determine whether you want to continue first. A short, specific enquiry leaves room for a useful answer without asking you to disclose more than you choose.
A message you can adapt
Here is an illustrative example: “Hello. I would like to learn more about a DrHugger session. I have read that this is a platonic, non-sexual service for adults. I would like to understand what happens before a meeting and how boundaries are discussed. I would prefer a written reply initially. Thank you.” This is a writing example, not an actual client’s message.
Change the questions to reflect what you genuinely need. For instance, you can ask whether a particular day might be possible without assuming it is available. If you only want information at first, say so clearly. You do not need to add personal explanations to justify that choice or demonstrate that your interest is serious enough to deserve a reply.
What you can leave out
For a general first question, leave out identity documents, financial details, medical records and detailed information about other people. Do not attach photographs or private conversations simply because you assume they might help. If a specific request for further information arises, you can first ask why it is needed and which method is appropriate for sending it.
The ICO’s guidance on data minimisation connects information to its specific purpose. We use that practical idea here, not as a claim of legal compliance: include what serves your question. You can state a personal boundary plainly without adding the history behind it or explaining why it matters to you.
What sending the message means
A session enquiry starts a conversation; it is not an automatic booking, a confirmation of availability or consent to physical contact. Keep “I would like information”, “I would like to discuss a possible session” and any later agreement separate. Being clear at this stage avoids expectations about arrangements that have not actually been discussed.
Before pressing send, read the message as though you were seeing it for the first time. Is your question clear? Have you included anything unnecessary? Have you presented a preference as an existing agreement? For the overall process, read how a session works. Information comes before your decision, and the decision remains yours.